This letter was written for the Write Tribe Wednesday writing prompt that asked that we compose a letter to a stranger that I judged with my first impression and in the end made a lasting impression.
To the Man on Dialysis,
When I first
saw you at the kidney center when I was 24 I was put off by your
appearance. I was there with my mom who had to undergo kidney dialysis three times a week to live, much as you did. I didn’t know you. You were a stranger to me and your appearance scared me at first. The medics would
wheel you in, hook you to the machine and you would lay there looking half dead
for the entire time. People said you
were from a nursing home and were almost blind.
Diabetes had robbed you of your sight, your right leg, and functional
kidneys. In my young mind, I chalked you
up as someone that didn’t have much of a life and that considering your
condition couldn’t have ever had one. I
dismissed you immediately thinking you had nothing interesting to share.
As time went on,
I became more comfortable and familiar with all the patients. I was bored waiting the 4 long hours until my
mom was done with the machine and because of that I began making my rounds
getting to know the patients. At the
time I was a graphic design student in college nearing the end and preparing
for portfolio. I cannot tell you how
thankful I was the day I finally sat down at your side and struck up a
conversation. That was the day my
opinion of you changed. I discovered how
you had come to be on kidney dialysis and to my shock you had been quite
the successful cartographer. In laymen’s
terms you drew maps. Even more cool, you
had actually drawn the maps used for the 1988 Calgary Olympic Winter games.
One day you
relayed the story of how your sister had met Eddie Murphy in Las Vegas. Your sister had been vacationing there and
one day went to get on the elevator. She
found herself surrounded by a group of tall black men. The door closed and you told how your sister
nervously wished she had waited for the next elevator.
All of
a sudden the doors closed and a man behind her told her to hit the floor. Your sister, having her imagination run away
from her, immediately fell to the floor with her hands in the air sure she was
soon to be robbed. The elevator filled
with laughter and she quickly made her exit.
Later when she went to check out of the hotel she discovered her bill
had been paid in full. The clerk gave
her a letter that said “I have never laughed so hard in all my life! Thank you for making my day. I thought stuff like that only happened in
the movies! I hope the rest of your stay
was enjoyable.” The letter was signed by
Eddie Murphy.
I learned that
first impressions can be misleading. You simply
can’t judge a person by their appearance.
Just because they look a certain way doesn’t mean that they have nothing
to share, aren’t fun, or their life didn’t touch others. That man touched my life. He changed me for the better. I learned not to judge others. I learned first impressions weren’t
everything. I learned everyone is
special and has something worthwhile to give to this world. Everyone deserves kindness, compassion, and
to have a friend. Everyone deserves a chance. Once my mom died, I never saw you again. I want you to know how blessed I am to have
known you. I am so glad we met and for the lessons you taught me.
I have been bluer than a comfortable pair of blue jeans lately. Today after getting over another migraine I decided I needed a reason to smile. My first stop was You Tube. Music really soothes the soul and LMFAO’s video “I’m Sexy and I Know it!” cracks me up. Seriously, can you honestly watch that video, feel the beat, and see all those geeky guys wiggle, wiggle, wiggling their twig and giggle berries without laughing? I certainly can’t. It is also a song I can’t resist dancing to. I crank the volume and the kids and I get our jam on. My son loves to “wiggle”. G0d help me, he has the makings of a male stripper. When I am with my kids, I don’t even need an Alabama Slammer to get up and shake my groove thing when that song comes on.
I smile when my kids shower me with their love. Seriously is there anything better than having your kid come up to you out of the clear blue sky, smile their precious smile, and say “I love you Mommy!!” No, I didn’t think so either. It gets me every time!! Their hugs, kisses, and drawings are some of the best things life has to offer. Knowing my husband is coming home makes me smile. The cat purring contentedly and my dogs snuggling around me no matter where I am makes me happy.
Tonight I took my kids to my son’s elementary school for the “Back to School Ice Cream Social”. You can go tour the school, meet your kid’s teacher, and top if off with free ice cream. I had to be the odd ball. Both the kids had their ice cream smothered with chocolate. Me? I had to have my ice cream smothered with strawberries!! I am smiling just thinking about it.
Smiles lead to laughter and since everyone in my house honed their funny bone on Eddie Murphy’s humor, an off the wall comment like “Remember that fart you once made” leaves me laughing so hard tears are streaming down my face, snot is blowing out of my nose, and I am choking on myself. Why are farts so funny? They just are!! The funniest thing is I can remember some momentous farts from the past that still leave me laughing so hard I have to make a mad dash to the toilet so I don’t pee my pants!! There was the time my Grandma farted in front of everyone and my sister proclaimed “Ewww, who $hit?” to my parents mortification. To my knowledge my Grandma never farted as freely ever again. There was also the time my Dad farted on the cat. The cat let out a yowl, jumped about three feet high, and took off like a bat out of hell to get away from the smell. You know, remembering moments like that make me smile!!
There are a million reasons to smile, and even more reasons to laugh. The world would be a better place if everyone would just lighten up, and smile or laugh out loud. Who wants to be all pious and straight faced? So smile, laugh out loud, and live a little. It will make everyone wonder what the hell you have been up to until next time when I give you another glimpse into the life of a trucker’s wife.
I would choose the music concert every single time, unless my favorite comedian Eddie Murphy was in town, then I would so be there!! Not just any music concert though. As far as comedy shows go I have only ever been to one and that was a performance of George Carlin. While he was funny, after a while my face began to hurt from laughing so much and it got old for me.
I have a couple videos of Eddie Murphy’s stand up routine plus a vast collection of his movies and that man has never failed to make me laugh until I practically peed in my pants. When I was a freshman in college at a notably churchy school I used to play my copy of Eddie Murphy Raw at full blast. Why? I was rebelling from the mandatory 7 days a week dose of religion. I love Eddie Murphy’s smile and that unmistakable laugh. His stand up routine is outrageous and just kills me. I am also a big fan of his movies from the Beverly Hills Cop trilogy to the 48 hours and it’s sequel among countless others.
When my mom was on dialysis back in the early 90’s I would go along for the 4 hours she was on the machines. Sometimes I would read, watch TV, and other times I would visit with some of the other dialysis patients. I was amazed one day when I chose to sit down and talk to a man who had not only lost the function of his kidneys to diabetes but his leg and vision as well. To look at him he didn’t look to me like he would have any good stories to tell. You should never judge people by their appearances because he proved to be a very interesting man who before diabetes had wrecked havoc on his life had drawn maps by hand, most notably maps for the Calgary Olympic Games of 1988.
He also told a very amusing story about how his sister had recently vacationed in Las Vegas. Evidently while at her hotel she had stepped on an elevator with 6 tall, well muscled black men. When one of them told her to hit the floor she freaked out, and expecting to be robbed she body slammed herself to the floor with her arms in the air. The elevator erupted in laughter. Embarrassed she got back on her feet, pressed the floor she wished to get off on, turned a brilliant red, and as soon as the doors opened beat a hasty retreat. At the end of her stay she went to the front desk to settle her bill and check out. Guess what? Her bill had been paid in full. Astounded she read the note left by her benefactor which said: “I have never laughed so hard in all my life! You made my day. I hope you enjoyed your vacation. Thank you for a laugh I will never forget!” The note was signed Eddie Murphy.
Now when I pop in an Eddie Murphy movie or stand up routine from my collection I remember the man from dialysis from long ago, his sister’s story, and Eddie’s generosity. It makes me smile as much as his dancing, prancing, and off the wall raunchy humor does. So if Eddie Murphy isn’t performing, then I would go for a concert every single time until next time when I give you another glimpse into the life of a trucker’s wife.